Extra: Mr. Feynman Takes a Trip — But Doesn’t Fall

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Hey there, it's Stephen Dubner, and we have got a bonus episode I'd like you to hear.We just finished a three-part series called The Curious, Brilliant, Vanishing Mr. Feynman about the late theoretical physicist Richard Feynman.When he was in his 20s, he worked on the Manhattan Project.When he was in his 60s, he served on a presidential commission investigating the Challenger space shuttle disaster. In between, he won a Nobel Prize, had a million adventures, and lived a life of, well, curious and brilliant are pretty good words for it. And then, yeah, then came the vanishing.He died in 1988, and his legacy has shrunk since then.Too much for some people's taste. That would include me.So for this series, we sought out a variety of people to talk about Feynman.One of the most unusual interviews happened at the Esalen Institute in Big Sur, California, where Feynman spent some time in the 1970s and 80s.Our Esalen host was Sam Stern. SPEAKER_03: Well, when I think about Esalen, I think about this place where people are able to explore a new way of being through, a lot of it is through humanistic psychology.How much do you personally know and care about Richard Feynman? All I know about Feynman is that there's this one talk in the archive that's from 1984.It's called Tiny Machines, and I listened to it this weekend.It doesn't necessarily feel aligned with the greater human potential movement in general.He seems like a brilliant, neurotic, fast-talking Jewish guy.It doesn't make him unlike the rest of the teachers from that time, but he— Yeah, his concerns seem scientific and mathematical and not necessarily embodied the way that a lot of the other teachers sort of like they grounded their work in the body. SPEAKER_04: Feynman was definitely an outsider at Esalen.He was generally an enthusiast of just about anything that might prove interesting.But he was also a perpetual skeptic who didn't trust even mainstream psychology, much less the fringier variants being explored in California at that time.But Feynman's curiosity often led him to surprising places.As a kid, he experimented with lucid dreaming. As an adult, he explored sensory deprivation tanks and, toward the very end of his life, hallucinogenic drugs.Among Feynman's many interests was consciousness and the different layers thereof, and he was willing to push boundaries to explore it.Esalen encouraged this. SPEAKER_03: Esalen, right from the get-go, was a place where non-ordinary states of consciousness were looked at very carefully and with a lot of respect for what could be gleaned from those experiences. SPEAKER_04: We arrived at Esalen with Ralph Leighton, the longtime friend, drumming partner, and writing partner of Richard Feynman.Leighton had told us in one of the interviews we did with him about a meaningful and memorable series of encounters that Feynman had once had at Esalen where With their help and supervision, Feynman had participated in at least two psychedelic experiences, one with mushrooms and one with LSD. If you listened to the third and final part of our Feynman series, you heard some of my conversation with the Graces, but there was a lot more that we couldn't fit.So we wanted you to hear a fuller version.It was quite an experience.So today on Freakonomics Radio, Barbara Berg, Cheryl Haley, and Debbie Harlow, the three Graces at Esalen, remembering Richard Feynman. SPEAKER_08: So he and Ralph came for lunch and they stayed for three days. SPEAKER_06: I think that Richard had a beautiful combination of playfulness and integrity. SPEAKER_07: It was like pow, tears were pouring down his face. SPEAKER_04: Richard Feynman takes a trip, but doesn't fall.That starts now. SPEAKER_00: This is Freakonomics Radio, the podcast that explores the hidden side of everything with your host, Stephen Dubner. SPEAKER_04: One thing I want to say before we get going, this conversation was not recorded in a studio, as most of our interviews are, but in a cabin on the Esalen property.And there were four open microphones, so the audio may be a bit looser than you're used to hearing on this show, but I think you will find the trade-off acceptable. First, just introduce yourself, say your name, what you do, and then maybe a little something about Feynman. SPEAKER_06: Okay, so my name is Cheryl Haley.I was a psychoanalyst in Manhattan for many years until I got introduced to Esalen, where I discovered a totally different worldview. And I was so glad to have a strong psychological background behind me because it certainly comes in handy for all kinds of explorations. SPEAKER_07: My name is Debbie Harlow, and I'm a psychotherapist.I worked with MDMA and other psychedelics as a youngster in training with people like Leo Zeff, Stan Grof, and Claudio Naranjo back in the 80s, shortly before I met Feynman.I went out to Harvard to do a graduate degree and later a postgraduate in research.I was fascinated with these materials as an adjunct to psychotherapy and personal and spiritual growth. While I was at Harvard, I ended up rooming with three of Marvin Minsky's students in the AI department.And I got to know these wonderful quirky guys with brilliant minds, but often who didn't have the greatest sense of social skills and connectivity.And so I thought, oh, this is just the right milieu for introducing the work that I was doing with MDMA. Long story short, I had heard Feynman's name mentioned many times, and when I heard he was at Esalen, I thought, oh, wouldn't it be nice to go down and hear what he has to say?I came here, and I met Dick, and I spent about three hours walking around Esalen, getting to know him. sharing our personal stories. And then at the end of that time, I asked him, I said, have you ever tried psilocybin mushrooms?And he said, no.And I asked, would you like to?And he said, yes.So that's the beginning of our story together. SPEAKER_08: Okay, Barbara?Barbara wants to run out of the room.My name is Barbara Berg, and I came to Esalen at the age of 28 from Connecticut.I was bored in graduate school.I was looking for greater understanding about the nature of consciousness in evolution.I started here as a work scholar.I stayed on to end up teaching at Esalen and running month-long programs at Esalen. and work with stana christina groff on the holotropic breath work what became holotropic breath work and it was a wonderful time in esalen there was a lot happening with consciousness and psychedelics at that point and finally was coming to town cheryl and i happened to live a mile up the road at the time he gave a talk that was very i thought charming as well as inspirational and we invite him to our house and that's how we began our friendship SPEAKER_07: And at that time, MDMA, I should point out, for my insurance policy at least, was legal.And so I was, because I'd had powerful experiences with it and was training with it, I would sometimes bring it to the Esalen community.I don't know why we didn't offer Richard Feynman MDMA at that time.For some reason, it just seemed like mushrooms, you know, that's what came up, and he was interested. SPEAKER_04: Did it seem as though somehow he were more of a mushroom guy than an MDMA guy? SPEAKER_07: I mean, I'm sure MDMA could have been a lovely experience too.But I had been working with scientists, mostly scientists, but creative people.And I found that working with psilocybin often opened up doors.So wouldn't it be nice to provide him the opportunity?It didn't work out like that. It was much more of a personal and deep experience.I asked him afterwards, he said, nope, nothing about my work, but wow. SPEAKER_04: So he was here for a few days to give a presentation and to hang out? SPEAKER_06: Yes, with Ralph.He was invited to give a lecture at Esalen, which he did beautifully about computers and whether or not they can think.That was really the reason that he was invited to Esalen, although he made additional use of it along the way. SPEAKER_04: And when you say additional use, just describe what that additional use would be.In addition to the dancing, the lecture, the drug experimentation, the hot springs. SPEAKER_08: That wasn't part of the official Aslan program.I think that would also please him that he could come to this wild and crazy place and let loose. SPEAKER_07: And that was common.I mean, interesting people would come in, give a presentation to the community at large, and then they were invited to stay for, you know, maybe a couple nights.And they could go to the baths, they could do drum circle, they could meet people, you know, they could just enjoy being at Esalen. SPEAKER_06: What I remember that I thought was quite significant was when Richard was getting off on LSD for the first time, we were watching the water, and the water was moving, and he started saying, we've got to draw the line somewhere.We've got to draw the line somewhere.And I always remembered that because to me, it meant that once one started entering that unitive state where everything becomes interactive and commingled, there's an arbitrary line that is drawn, that is consensually agreed upon to be the nature of reality. SPEAKER_08: For me, the relationship with him was also just the pleasure of having a personal relationship and who he was and getting to know him in his many essences.We all met him under different circumstances over the period of a couple of days.So I'd like to share how I met him, which was he gave this talk, Can Machines Think?And I kept looking at him as a Jewish New Yorker.I thought, Mishpucha, this man's my family.So for me, meeting with him was personal.And Cheryl and I were so entertained that we agreed we'd have to have him back to the house. So we decided to write him an invitation.And we knew that if we wrote him an invitation, that it'd be fairly outrageous to catch his attention.So I wrote something about my theory of something according to Marx. And then in parentheses wrote Groucho.The invitation was delivered.He read it and he crumpled it up for Ralph and said, people always want something for me.And he threw it on the floor.And then Ralph picked it up later, opened up and said, I think you better read this. So when he read the whole note to our great good fortune, he said, let's go. SPEAKER_04: What did he miss?That you were nice young ladies that he would enjoy spending time with? SPEAKER_08: Oh, no, no, no.That we were going to offer a level of like-minded entertainment. SPEAKER_04: I see. SPEAKER_08: So he and Ralph came and they came for lunch and they stayed for three days. SPEAKER_04: At the house?Yes. SPEAKER_08: Oh.And that's when the mushrooms unfolded and Debbie entertained. SPEAKER_07: And this is why it's such an interesting, because Barb, I didn't even know that piece of the story until this afternoon.So my trajectory with Dick just had to do with... I came down, I was house-sitting for a psychologist in Berkeley, and I had the inspiration to come here to get to know him and see if he was interested.And we spent maybe three, four hours talking one afternoon, just walking around the grounds, looking at the ocean. And I was just blown away with the depth and intimacy of that conversation with somebody I had just met and his capacity to go really deep and yet be playful at the same time.We talked a lot about our early lives.He talked a lot about Arlene.I think how it came up, I said, you know, I know a lot of scientists and I have to say you're one of the most well-rounded I've ever met.And he said, well... That may be true, but if it is, it's all due to Arlene. He said that I would have been a very narrow, computational kind of physics guy, but I knew her in high school, and she introduced me to art, to philosophy, to all the humanities.She opened up my heart, and he deeply loved her, and then he told me, of course, a tragic story, and I could sense that there was some... Certainly regret, but also guilt, the ways he felt, sadly, that he had failed her.So I knew there was some material there that, you know, he might unpack, but... This was what year? SPEAKER_08: We're not sure we think 84. SPEAKER_04: So he was getting toward the end of his life.He was sick for a while.Yes, he'd already had surgery by then. SPEAKER_08: He'd had a remission.He didn't anticipate being ill again. SPEAKER_07: And he never complained. SPEAKER_06: He had three surgeries.I think he had had one at that time.We went down to visit him just before his second surgery. SPEAKER_04: This was in Pasadena then? SPEAKER_06: This was in Pasadena, yes.This was before his second surgery, which... It was not known whether or not he would survive it.He had a very difficult time finding a surgeon who was willing to do it. SPEAKER_04: I'm not very good at geography, but I know that we are in Northern California and LA, Pasadena is a long way.And the road from here is like a snake made it.What led the three of you went on this trip? SPEAKER_07: Sadly, I couldn't attend, and that's one of the deep regrets of my life.They sent me pictures on the journey, and we talked and things.These two graces made up for it. SPEAKER_04: But what possessed you to take that long drive? SPEAKER_08: It was simply that he wasn't feeling well, so we thought, you know, bring them out into Muhammad. SPEAKER_06: We went down to be with him before the surgery.Nobody knew if he was going to survive it or not.And we just did it to be loving to him and to support him.And he really enjoyed it. SPEAKER_04: What was your relationship like with Gwyneth, his wife?Was she there for that? SPEAKER_06: We met her at the hospital.We met his daughter, Michelle, and his wife. SPEAKER_04: What did the family think of these two nice, smart, beautiful young women driving eight hours through the mountains to see their husband slash father?A little strange? SPEAKER_08: They seemed very okay. SPEAKER_06: I think they were respectful that we'd come and really cared.Yeah, I felt very accepted.I did not feel judged at all for our being there. SPEAKER_04: So the three of you obviously had an intense, happy relationship with him that was formed here under interesting, heightened circumstances.And you formed this band of three goddesses that sound like you feathered into and out of his life for a while.Do you have any sense whether that was a typical thing for him?Do you think he had goddesses scattered around the rest of the world? SPEAKER_06: No, no, I think it was rather unique.He just let on.No, I don't think so either. SPEAKER_07: Dick showed such deep respect for each of us had a personal relationship with him.He got me at very deep levels.I would say if anything, he maybe was a little bit paternal.He is quite protective. He cared about me as an individual.We talked about my career.We talked about what my goals were, what drove me.He wasn't a taker.He was a person who gave deeply of himself, shared what wisdom he had.He shared his levity. I really appreciated his friendship.We joked around with the, oh, the three goddess feeding him the grapes, but that was really not the essence of the experience. SPEAKER_04: Coming up after the break, why did Feynman want to experiment with psychedelics when he'd never done drugs before?I'm Stephen Dubner.This is Freakonomics Radio.We'll be right back. 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SPEAKER_04: All right, back now to my conversation with Barbara Berg, Cheryl Haley, and Debbie Harlow about the time they spent at the Esalen Institute in the 1980s with Richard Feynman. SPEAKER_06: I think that Richard had a beautiful combination of playfulness and integrity.I always saw both of those things present in him. SPEAKER_04: Did you ever speak with him or intuit from him where that came from? SPEAKER_06: Yes, he talked a lot about his father.He talked a lot about the influence that his father had on him.Because as he was growing up, his father taught him that just because something is given a name, it doesn't mean that it's explained.So I could see that his father had a very strong influence on his way of seeing the world, his curiosity about it, and just his whole frame for his approach. SPEAKER_04: The father strikes me as a lot of men of that generation and that intellect and that place where they could have accomplished something more or different had they been born a generation later or maybe in a slightly different family.Do you ever think Richard Feynman felt that he was fulfilling some of his father's intellectual appetites? SPEAKER_07: I don't know, but my sense of him is that his father just gave him this gift of a way of looking at the world, which so excited him and turned him on that, you know, it's like he's so excited about every day solving these problems.It turns out to be a little answer or a big answer.It doesn't matter.He was inspired by his dad.Yeah, I think he was inspired. SPEAKER_08: You can see that on documentaries, but I think he was just insatiably curious in the most lovely way. SPEAKER_04: How did he feel about being the center of attention? SPEAKER_08: His favorite role.He enjoyed it. SPEAKER_04: Was he good, however, at not going over the line and becoming obnoxious and arrogant? SPEAKER_07: Oh, I don't think obnoxious arrogance might have been his best quality. SPEAKER_08: He had high self-esteem.He loved attention. SPEAKER_04: Many people who love attention and have high self-esteem are not fun to be around.What made him different? SPEAKER_06: Humor?Reciprocation?Yeah.He was genuinely good-natured.I mean, he genuinely enjoyed himself, and that was contagious.So I think that he supported other people having a good time as he was having a good time. SPEAKER_04: How was he different when he was on a trip on acid or mushrooms versus not? SPEAKER_08: He was quieter.I wanted to say for the record that I have a background as a psychotherapist, so I know about confidentiality.So even in 1984 or whatever year, we were very specific to ask him whether we did or did not have permission to reveal that he had taken psychedelics.And he gave carte blanche permission.Thank you for sharing that, Barb. SPEAKER_07: Yeah. He didn't really go around and tell very many people about it.There's only one or two. SPEAKER_06: It was quite confidential.Yeah. SPEAKER_04: And in his books, he's kind of careful.He'll say like, I tried a few things here and there, but I feel like my mind is my best attribute and I don't want to mess it up. SPEAKER_06: And that was a lot of the reason that he had never done any drugs prior to that time, because his mind was so precious to him and he didn't want to do anything to tamper with it.And so he did confide to me that the reason he was willing to do it at this time was because, well, like I said, he had already had surgery for cancer. He was going to be undergoing his second surgery.I think he knew that his time was coming.And because he was so curious and he was such an adventurer, I think he really wanted to try it before he died. SPEAKER_04: What was he hoping, do you think, to accomplish? SPEAKER_06: Well, the nature of what a physicist does is explore the nature of reality.And I think he was equally curious about his own nature of reality.And so anything that he could learn or experience that was new was welcome to him. In fact, he told me about how he used to experiment in his dreams.He would set up a task where he would have a nail on the wall and he would try to feel it in his dreams and see if he could actually sensorily feel the nail.And so he was curious about his mind in the same way that he was curious about all facets of reality.I think he was genuinely curious and he knew that he did not have too much time to live. SPEAKER_07: Ralph told me that until he did that big mushroom trip, he could never talk about Arlene, at least with another guy, with Ralph.And he said that after that, he was able to open up.He was able to really share emotionally things that he just wasn't able to do before.So whether that happened as a result of relationships and talking or whether it happened some combination with that and the mushrooms, I don't really know. SPEAKER_04: And that was... 40 years earlier by that point, right?More than 40 years. SPEAKER_06: Oh, he deeply loved Arlene.And he did talk to us about her.I mean, he said he met her when she was 16.She was shortly diagnosed with TB.They got married anyway. SPEAKER_08: I think that his love of Arlene was not some kind of idealization of romantic love.I think he touched into a deep kind of love, and I think that kind of love can stay with a person for the rest of their lives. SPEAKER_07: And I think she became very much a part of him.It's like he expanded who he was through knowing her. And so I think that the main thing that I saw that was still haunting him was the sense of some regret and grief and a little bit of guilt as well.So I think he still was carrying some... internal conflict about that.And so it felt to me like these sessions helped him to release that sense of guilt.But I think that he was definitely in a felt sense carrying that still, even these 40 years later. SPEAKER_08: I think the fact that we were genuinely loving with him, and I think it allowed him to remember, to re-experience some of what he felt with Arlene.Just kind of love with integrity.What we had with him was nothing romantic. SPEAKER_07: Yeah, and the same here.But it allowed that to emerge. That was the idea.He mentioned to me something like, I can't remember the phrase, but he said that they shared ideas, you know, from these very different perspectives.And she enlarged his vision of what it was to be human.He took an art class just to be near her, and then he got really into drawing.And so I think it was more like a platonic love like that.It was like a deep friendship thing. And it was unique, I think, to each of us.And I'm sure he had other people as well, men and women, who had these kinds of relationships with him. He certainly struck me as a person with a tremendous capacity for intimacy.I treasure the hours that I spent with him. SPEAKER_04: Do you think it made it easier for him to have the kind of relationship he had with the three of you because there were three of you?And if it had been just one? SPEAKER_06: Yes, I do. SPEAKER_04: Say a little bit more about it. SPEAKER_06: I think that he picked up on the fact that we very genuinely had no ulterior motive, which was true.We're very trustworthy, which was also accurate.And so there was an all the way around feeling of trust.And that feels really good. SPEAKER_07: Yeah.And that's really kind of ideal because initially I was just looking for a place, you know, he said, well, and he was very, it was so sweet.He was very protective of Ralph because he said, well, my young friend, I'm, he was all in, you know, ready for an adventure.And I was happy because I was sure he was resilient enough, but he said, but my friend Ralph is going to be very nervous about this. So he did a lot of work to like sort of bring Ralph into the fold and introduce us and everything.But initially I was just looking for a place and didn't really want to do it on the Essling grounds out of respect for, you know. SPEAKER_04: Out of respect for what? SPEAKER_07: You know, Esalen, it's an institute, it has its rules and things, and, you know, it could have been okay, but I think he was rooming with Ralph at the time too, right?And then when I ran into Cheryl and asked Cheryl, and Cheryl had already met him, so each of us had had an encounter with him within the last two days, each individually very different, right? And then I said, you know, would it be okay at your house?And she's, oh, absolutely.She said, in fact, I danced with them.So then we decided to do it there.Tell me about the place and about that night. SPEAKER_06: The chocolate.Oh, yeah.Yeah.Yeah.But no, the house, this darling, beautiful, hand-built little house. Right on the edge of the cliff of the ocean.And it was all stone and glass and wood with a lovely little trail that went down to a cabana down by the ocean.It was an exquisite, magical, fanciful place to have. SPEAKER_04: And this is where you lived? SPEAKER_06: Yes, this is where I lived.So it was a perfect location, only a mile and a half from Esalen.And because mushrooms taste very bad, we devised this wonderful way to eat them where we made up this big batch of delicious chocolate and we treated it like fondue.So we dipped the mushrooms into the chocolate and fed them to him. And it was a very palatable way to eat the mushrooms. SPEAKER_08: He was lying back on the couch.He moved to feed him the mushrooms dipped in chocolate.And he was in ecstasy. SPEAKER_04: Now, had you all done mushrooms before that? SPEAKER_08: Yes.Yeah.We had worked.Well, I had worked as a psychedelic psychotherapist. SPEAKER_07: I guess we all had.Yes.And sure, I believe as well. SPEAKER_04: And when you're doing mushrooms for your personal, not treating someone else, what were you trying to accomplish in your lives?Like, what did you get out of it?And what kind of gift were you trying to give to him? SPEAKER_06: Well, I have always been extremely curious about the phenomenology of mind and perception and the astonishment of being a human being.So anything that helped to explore that further. was something that I was going to be very interested in.That included hypnosis.It included learning about shamanism and traveling around the world, doing psychedelic drugs.But I was genuinely interested in the phenomenology of mind.Ditto. SPEAKER_08: If you're insatiably curious about the nature of reality, then you might study yourself or your community.It's an anthropological perspective.And then you have to study cosmology and religion.Then you have to study physics and then you have to study math.So to me, there's sort of a natural succession and psychedelics fit right in. SPEAKER_06: I would like to take this opportunity to say that I am so relieved and grateful that using substances therapeutically is really experiencing a renaissance because I think there is so much potential therapeutic use that is so valuable. And Rick Doblin, who also we knew at Esalen, has done so much to further that cause, to bring about the legitimacy, the legality, and the therapeutic use.And I'm very, very grateful to watch this movement happening. SPEAKER_04: So is there anything more from the experience with Feynman in the house, whether it's the mushroom and chocolate or the acid, which was later, right?Any other just details, description, what was going on, what the experience was like? SPEAKER_07: Well, I think for me, there was just a little bit of a conflict with the other two goddesses initially, because I had planned a session, like a one-on-one very deep session where I would basically just sit for him, try to get him to go inside and explore as deeply as possible on high dose. SPEAKER_04: Not a party, in other words.Not a party.And these goddesses turned it into a party a little bit? SPEAKER_07: No, not a party.But Dick was very extroverted.And so when he was coming on, he's looking at all the beauty, you know, the stained glass and he's wondering and everything.And I'm trying my best to get him back onto his little pallet on the floor and say... close your eyes, I promise you that it will be even more wondrous if you go inside.Eventually he did.And when he did, we did some breath work.And so when he released that, it was like pow, tears were pouring down his face.And he was, I could tell he was in ecstasy.He was just laid back and he was You know, and eventually he opened his eyes and he said, oh, Deb, he said, it's even more beautiful than you promised, you know, and then he went back inside.So he had his inner journey and I was hoping to keep that focus and to continue that and then to do the integration. My beautiful, gracious goddesses, of course, were weaving in and out, and he couldn't help himself.I mean, he opened his eyes, and there's Cheryl, all pink.She looks like a cherub, you know, from heaven with her blonde curls.And then he's going kind of like, oh, you know. And so in some ways, I was a little frustrated because I was hoping to continue this journey.But then on the other hand, what came out of that, the deep friendships, the playfulness, the joy that their energies brought to him, it was probably even a better session because you know that I have to go, okay, that's my agenda.What does Dick want? So they were glorious, but it was just, we were slightly, you know, not completely aligned. SPEAKER_04: That's really interesting.I'd love to hear your perspectives too of that night, that session. SPEAKER_08: I saw us as we've been having a lot of fun realizing we all have different recollections.So I saw us as all weaving in and out through that and doing it as a foursome, which was completely different than Debbie's experience.You know, not everything that happened with him was about psychedelics.I mean, we developed a much broader relationship with him, but I remember calling one of the LSD, the LSD session.I thought it was so funny.He was lying on the same couch, staring at a banana for three hours. quiet as could be.Debbie had trained him well.We just turn it once in a while.And afterwards, I asked him what was happening. He said, very sincerely said, I don't know.I was just looking at the banana. SPEAKER_06: Sometimes the banana is just, and I think there's room for both the outer and the inner and to be able to have both and to journey with both. SPEAKER_04: More of this conversation after the break.Also, if you'd like to hear more about Rick Doblin, the founder of MAPS, the Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies, he was interviewed by Steve Levitt on the People I Mostly Admire podcast.That's another show on the Freakonomics Radio Network.The episode is called The Future of Therapy is Psychedelic.And you can find that wherever you listen to podcasts.I'm Stephen Dubner.This is Freakonomics Radio.We'll be right back. Freakonomics Radio is sponsored by Kohler.Kohler smart toilets combine sculptural design with intuitive technology to deliver a new standard of clean and comfort. 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SPEAKER_04: A lot of our conversation about the Challenger already appeared in part three of our series, The Vanishing, Mr. Feynman, so I won't repeat it here.But if you haven't heard that, you should check it out.It's interesting.From that topic, we moved on to Feynman's participation in the Manhattan Project.That was the US government's secret plan to build the first atomic bomb in Los Alamos, New Mexico.If you've seen the film Oppenheimer, you know something about that. I asked the three women whether they ever spoke with Feynman about building the bomb.Here are, in order of speaking, Haley, Berg, and Harlow. SPEAKER_06: I talked to him about it because I believed that his cancer was a result of having been there at Los Alamos.He denied it adamantly, but I always thought that it was.I don't think we really talked so much about the ethics of it. SPEAKER_08: Did any of you?He talked about guilt, but what he loved to tell were the stories of safe cracking and how much he missed Arlene.Yeah. SPEAKER_04: But then also, like, when he went to Japan not long after the war to help kind of rebuild their physics industry, I sense that was out of... Absolutely. SPEAKER_08: And he would continue to go back to Japan to give talks on quantum electrodynamic theory. SPEAKER_04: And do you think that was why? SPEAKER_08: I would assume both.Both because he found like-minded physicists and also to compensate. SPEAKER_07: He didn't talk to me about the regret, but he just felt that... It was no great stretch of the imagination that the Nazis were working on the same thing.And so you just had to weigh, you know, it's not like you really want your own government or anybody else to have a weapon of this kind of devastation.But, you know, that was the devil's bargain. SPEAKER_06: Yes.And he felt things deeply and he did have a sense of grief and regret and guilt.Those were not foreign feelings to him. Although I think there was a certain amount of denial around it in the same way that he denied that his own cancer came from that experience.I think there was also kind of a shielded protection that he had inside emotionally about the role that he played. SPEAKER_04: Mm-hmm. It struck me, this is just a theory and I'm probably wrong, but that after helping build the bomb, after losing his wife, then he went back to Cornell, which wasn't a great time for him.And then all of a sudden he got this offer to come to California.And my sense is that, I don't know how much California needed Feynman, but Feynman really needed, like this was the place where Feynman kind of became who he needed to be. SPEAKER_06: Oh, I think that's true.He loved being in Pasadena.I think he felt in his element.He really loved California.I think he was very relieved, like you're describing, to be there. SPEAKER_04: What was it about California? SPEAKER_08: I think it was not only California, but just teaching and being an instructor and being an inspiration to others.And also, as we know, the peer group at Caltech at that time was extraordinary.So I think he was immensely satisfied intellectually, as well as entertained by his own teaching.Mm-hmm. SPEAKER_04: I'd like to hear from each of you what you felt or experienced when you learned of his death. SPEAKER_06: It's interesting, Barb.You and I learned about it together at the same time.We just happened to be together and see it in the newspaper.It was not unexpected, but it certainly was emotional.And I was very glad that we were together when we learned about it because we had shared so much. SPEAKER_08: It's good that one of us remembers that. What I remember is a phone call from a friend in Connecticut who said, I saw that fireman died.So maybe that's when it hit me. SPEAKER_07: For me, I mean, it's just such sadness and regret.I mean, both gratitude for the time that I was able to share with him, but real regret that I wasn't with the other two Graces in the hospital.And one of the things, at least in my relationship, in my experience of him, he was not a complainer. I never knew about his early bout with cancer.He never, ever emphasized his own suffering and his, you know, he wasn't like that.And I just felt so bad.I mean, I knew he was in the hospital.I knew that he had cancer.I didn't know he was going to die.It was devastating. I felt a lot of guilt that I couldn't have somehow extricated from my life to at least just be there to, you know, give him a hug and joke with him. SPEAKER_08: I think to his credit, when Cheryl and I went to UCLA to the medical center to see him, I was impressed because, I mean, I think at that point, I think he knew.I saw him as a dying man. SPEAKER_06: Oh, yes.I think we knew that at the time. SPEAKER_08: And they were just seeing, could they do something to delay it? But what was impressive to me was when we walked in the room, he was dressed, sitting up in bed.He wasn't in a hospital gown.He was sitting up in bed reading the New York Times and being lovely and nice and kind to the nursing staff.And I thought, what a great attitude, because this man knows that he's got a death sentence. SPEAKER_04: What I really want to hear about is his character.How would you describe his character as a human and the way he treated other humans? SPEAKER_08: That's who I think we loved, or at least I can speak for myself. SPEAKER_06: I really appreciate the sense of respect that he showed to me and to us.I mean, he never came on to us sexually.He would spend the night.We'd be very cozy together.But I really trusted his character, his intention, and his integrity.And I thought that was a really beautiful thing. SPEAKER_07: Well, I can't speak for the other two goddesses, but it was just a deep friendship.And he never flirted with me.He never came on to me in any way. SPEAKER_08: Just a very sincere, smart, not conniving kind of person.Just principled. SPEAKER_06: Yes, and very authentic, very real.It's like whatever you saw was what was genuine.And I think that that made him, for me, very trustable because he was so sincere and so genuine and there was no guile, no guile about him. SPEAKER_08: And a hell of a lot of joy.I mean, everything was so exciting and interesting to him.Yeah.And that was contagious.Yeah. SPEAKER_07: It was like it didn't need to go there because like you said, the banana was fascinating.We had so much fun.We'd walk around the garden at Esalen and look, he taught me the lesson his father taught him about looking at, say, a plant in this case.And So do you know that plant?And I said, oh yeah.No, he said, but do you really know the plant?He sort of taught me that looking at the world almost in that Blakey and sense of, you know, the wonder of it, exploring it.How is it constructed?What does that mean? Look at it in its environment.So he's like that about everything.So everything was a joy. SPEAKER_04: It's so interesting and useful for us that you knew him well toward the end of his life.And obviously, you know, You have a whole life of experience, a life of accomplishment, a life of regret, disappointment, etc.Then the fact that he knew he wasn't going to last forever, obviously, because of illness.How do you each think that he would have described his life, his accomplishments?Was he satisfied? SPEAKER_06: One thing that I will say about him is that he did not believe in an afterlife.And when Arlene died and she would come to him in dreams, he would tell her, go away, go away.He did not believe in any kind of afterlife after death. SPEAKER_04: It's heartbreaking.And I don't mean the disbelief.I mean, it's heartbreaking that he would conjure her and then considering how much he loved her, not want to. SPEAKER_08: And was that possibly a threat to his identity? SPEAKER_04: What do you mean by that? SPEAKER_08: It would be such a terrible, it would be a total paradigm shift to say, I believe that I had contact with my wife in the afterlife during a dream. SPEAKER_06: Oh, that's a good point.That's a good point. SPEAKER_04: But don't you think his love for her might have outweighed his identity?No. SPEAKER_08: If Shakespeare had written it, yes. SPEAKER_07: One of the things I really appreciated about him was that it's like a childlike sense of wonder, you know, with a brilliant mind.Every day there was something to think about, to explore, to look at.You know, he made life worth living just being around him.It was an inspiration. SPEAKER_06: Yeah, I agree.And I never saw him to have any self-aggrandizement, to be like overly proud or stuck up or, you know, full of himself.I think that was very far afield from his character. SPEAKER_04: It's funny because we hear these stories where he would say, winning the Nobel was the worst thing ever because it brought all this attention.And I think, well, he might mean that partially, but he must have liked the attention. SPEAKER_07: You're saying he really... No, I think he'd rather have, you know, the camaraderie of being a drummer with some of that kind of attention. SPEAKER_08: I would agree, you know, about the Nobel.I don't remember his exact words, but it was sort of, you know, the prize is not the thing.The knowledge and the discovery was the thing for him. SPEAKER_06: And that's why he loved working at Los Alamos, because all the scientists were working together.There was that camaraderie and that shared goal and quest. SPEAKER_07: Well, I don't think he was not competitive.I mean, he certainly had that side as well.But the person that we knew was a person who was just overflowing with energy and joy and SPEAKER_08: But I also think he could be totally full of it sometimes.He could be full of himself. SPEAKER_07: Yeah, but not in a serious way.No, no.In a fun way, you know, it's like we could tease him about that and he would tease us.I was often too serious in those days and he would tease me and he'd tease me out of it. SPEAKER_06: He drummed for us and would make up songs.One of the songs, the lyrics I remember, it's, everything I say is false.Everything I say is a lie.And I love you. SPEAKER_04: Did anyone ever give him a hard time about the fact that he had just stared at a banana for three hours? Was that you?What did you say?Yeah, Nobel Prize winner.We get you. SPEAKER_08: So much for insight. SPEAKER_04: What do you think of Feynman's reputation today, such as it is?Because a lot of people don't know his name even anymore.I'm just curious whether you're surprised, frustrated that he hasn't magnified out into the future a bit more? SPEAKER_06: Well, any physicist that I've ever known just falls all over themselves when they learn that I actually knew him personally.So I think he enjoys a very high reputation. SPEAKER_04: But, you know, one reason we wanted to make this series was because it seems that the world could use more of him or people like him who were very smart, very down to earth, and could speak truth to power, including the Rogers Commission thing. I feel like we don't have a lot of that now.I'm wondering if you have any thoughts. SPEAKER_07: I agree, Stephen, in the gift he had of taking very complex topics and explaining them in a way with metaphors and images that, of course, it's not like understanding it at the level he understands it.But I'm very excited about when Ralph showed all of these slides and what Caltech has done.I'm hoping that that will get into middle schools and high schools and I think kids can watch these, be excited about physics and excited about science.I think he's a real inspiration for people who don't already have that level of knowledge. SPEAKER_06: I agree with that.And also, he said that if you truly understand something, you can explain it in such a way that a 12-year-old can understand it. SPEAKER_04: There are those who argue that physicists were great at making things like the bomb being the chief example.That was a weapon of destruction.And nuclear power came from that, but the energy benefit wasn't as great as people wanted.And that the world has kind of been taken over by a different kind of scientist, which is a computer scientist who built networks that make people hate each other a little bit more. SPEAKER_08: I'm interested to hear you say, is Feynman falling out of favor or familiarity?Because I'm thinking at the same time, I mean, people are so excited about quantum physics, right?So there's talk of string theory, what's the legitimacy of string theory, dark energy, dark matter.So I see him as one of the sort of antecedents in that larger conversation.So I hope he'll live on.I mean, what I love about this is that his lectures are not time constrained.Well, hopefully this podcast will get more people interested.Yeah. SPEAKER_04: All right.I can't thank you all enough.This was such an interesting and generous conversation.I really appreciate it.So even if we weren't recording it for a show, I'd say this was still a great gift and blessing.So thank you. SPEAKER_06: And it brought the three of us together in reminiscence also.So thank you for sharing that with us. SPEAKER_04: Thanks for really suggesting this. SPEAKER_02: Thank you. SPEAKER_04: That, again, was Barbara Berg, Cheryl Haley, and Debbie Harlow, the three graces of Esalen.Thanks to them and to Ralph Leighton for bringing us together, to Sam Stern and Esalen for hosting us, to Mike Buffo for the engineering, and thanks especially to you for listening to this bonus episode.We will be back soon with a regular episode in our regular time slot.Until then, take care of yourself, and if you can, someone else too. 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