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SPEAKER_07: Hello, hello. Malcolm Gladwell here. We're back with another conversation from our Revisionist History Live series on mastery. This took place at the 92nd Street Y in New York. As many of you know, I'm a pretty serious runner. And like most competitive runners, I was most running crazy when I was a kid. I started at 13, ran through high school, and a little in college. It was the single most fun thing I did growing up. Sports were my refuge from the craziness of adolescence.
SPEAKER_07: But one of the things that has become clear in recent years is that youth sports are no longer the oasis they used to be, that something very troubling is happening. Higher pressure, abusive coaches, over-involved parents. And it's worse for girls. Eating disorders, distorted body images. So I asked two people to come and talk about all this with me and figure out some answers. Lauren Fleschmann and Linda Flanagan, both athletes, coaches, and parents who've thought a lot about this problem. And by the way, who happen to have the same initials. So just to be clear, this is Linda.
SPEAKER_04: That's strangely when many parents don't step in. They raise hell when, you know, their child is put in right field. But if there's like just a lot of nastiness and a terrible team culture, they're quiet.
SPEAKER_07: Linda Flanagan, author of Take Back the Game, How Money and Mania Are Ruining Kids' Sports and Why It Matters. And here is Lauren.
SPEAKER_05: Truly, like my sport experience always felt like it was mine.
SPEAKER_07: Lauren Fleschmann, world-class runner, author of Good for a Girl, a Woman Running in a Man's World. Linda and Lauren gave me exactly what I wanted. I won't say we fixed kids' sports, but I do see a future worth believing in. Take a listen. For those of you who don't know, Laura was one of the great distance runners of her generation. She is an entrepreneur and now she's a writer. Now she's written this wonderful book. Linda, also accomplished runner, has done a number of things, interesting things over the course of your career, but of relevance to this evening, you coached for many years at the high school level. And it's really out of those experiences that you came to write your book, Take Back the Game. And I am interested in the two of you for a number of reasons, but I'm also a runner, not nearly as accomplished as either of you. In fact, I thought that we could all go for a run this afternoon. So I asked, first I said, let's go for a run. And so Linda says, well, I'm not running with Lauren, she's world-class. So you flaked. And then I said, all right, I'll go running with Lauren. And then Lauren says, no, I'm not going to run. I'm going to go for a run earlier in the day. And I think what happened, correct me if I'm wrong, Lauren, you looked at my strava, you said he's so slow, why would I waste a good running day? So I ran alone, straight set. I should have gone in the morning with me.
SPEAKER_07: So I'll get over that though. So both of you have written books about the crisis in youth sports. We said girls sports. And I think probably we should, we're going to talk probably more about girls than boys in this, because I think both of you would agree that problems are more acute with girls. And just to set things up, I wanted to, I'm going to describe the manner in which this conversation is going to take place, because we're going to play a little game, the Martian game. And the Martian game is, imagine there's a Martian who doesn't know anything about America, American culture, sports in America, nothing. Just a Martian in one of those balloons floating. And all he's been given is your two books. So he reads your two books, and he reaches a series of, he has no context, he has no inhibitions, he's not worried about asking. So I am the Martian, and I'm going to ask a series of questions unconstrained by any kind of other ideological positions of mine, previous experiences. I'm just drawing what might seem like extreme conclusions from both of your books, and I want you to respond to these conclusions, okay?
SPEAKER_05: Okay.
SPEAKER_07: All right. The Martian's first statement is, the Martian says, huh, should we ban men from ever coaching women again?
SPEAKER_04: It might not be a bad idea.
SPEAKER_07: Tell me why.
SPEAKER_04: Well, there are too many men coaching women, for one thing. Women need, women and girls need female role models in leadership positions. Everyone thinks of sports as, that's where you learn how to be a leader. And yet, very few girls are actually coached by women. And even at the collegiate level, it's about 42%. High school level, it's in the 20s, and in youth sports, it's 25%. So let's get more women in there so that young girls and teenagers can see that women can be leaders too. Lauren, do you have thoughts on the Martian's ban?
SPEAKER_05: Well, I like these points.
SPEAKER_05: I agree. In running, only 17% of the coaches in running are women, which I was really surprised, even lower than the average. I would say, let's not ban them until we've given them a chance to fill the giant gap of knowledge that we all are living with when it comes to female bodies and how they develop and how they operate. Let's let them, let's give them a chance to learn. Let's see how many of them want to, and the ones that want to and are willing to, and will do the work. Let's let them stay, and then let's do all the stuff that Linda's talking about. That's very enlightened.
SPEAKER_07: I was struck in reading your book, Lauren, by a big chunk of your book is a very powerful and insightful explanation of the difference in the physiological trajectories of young women and young men. And you make this, you were talking about your time at Stanford, the young men are a man or a bull, whatever they are, of college age is at their physical peak. They get better almost automatically every year. They're full of all the, every positive hormone known to man. Whereas the women are going through a much more complicated process. And the reason the Martian asks that question is the Martian says, how can a man ever fully understand what a young woman is going through if he's never gone through it himself?
SPEAKER_05: Well, I would say to the Martian, we can't apply that logic to the problems of the world or else the problems would only be able to be solved by people who've had an identical experience. And the problems are big enough that we need everyone involved. And I don't think there's anything that mysterious about the female body that anybody couldn't learn if they wanted to. It's just what we've, yeah.
SPEAKER_07: But we've been at it for years and years and years now. And just reading your book and that little section, it's not, we have an overwhelming, we have a largely male group of coaches and yet we still have, we have a persistence of these kinds of problems. And I'm wondering whether as the first step in solving the problem is to replace them
SPEAKER_07: with people who maybe have a better chance of understanding.
SPEAKER_05: Yeah. Well, with women coaches, you have a higher likelihood that they've gone through something similar, but you also have plenty of female coaches perpetuating the same harm that their male coaches pass down to them and repeat the culture. And so there's, the knowledge is needed by female coaches too. I get a lot of messages of people who've read the book, Women and Men, who are like, wow, I didn't know any of this stuff. I feel really bad now. I've been coaching for 10 years, 15 years. I wish I could go back and have some different conversations with my athletes than I had. There was no understanding of why the women were making the decisions they were making, why they were breaking, their bodies were breaking down at higher rates than our male peers. And, I mean, we don't study female bodies enough. We don't have enough research on female bodies. So I can't really like blame coaches for not knowing these things. Plus we sexualize most of the things that are specifically female, you know, or we make them dirty. Like the menstrual cycle has this reputation for being something you can't talk about without using euphemisms. Breasts are sexualized as soon as you're 12 and a half and get them. So it makes it hard to talk about our bodies and hard to talk about our bodies with grownups especially.
SPEAKER_07: Linda, what did your athlete, you coached for many, many years. What did your athletes get from you as a woman that they couldn't have gotten from a man? Or do you think there was no?
SPEAKER_04: I don't think that they got something from me that they couldn't get from a man. In fact, there's a man out here in the audience who I coached with who is a fabulous coach and role model for me who is very sensitive to the girls' feelings and wishes and dreams. So the more I think about it, I have to go back and tell the Martian that we don't need to ban male coaches, but we should be educating them along with women coaches who, as Lauren points out, are also guilty of a lot of the nonsense that we're reading about. You look at the Harvard ice hockey coach, every week there's another story about some egregious behavior on the part of a professional coach. And there are oftentimes women too.
SPEAKER_07: What about this though? The second thing that I took from reading both of your books, particularly from Lauren's, was this notion, this idea that I talked about briefly before, that you spend a lot of time on the book, that the trajectory of young men and women is different and that many women have this kind of in their late teens, early 20s, have a kind of performance plateau. So they observe the men getting better and better every year. And many of them hit a period of a couple years where their times are not getting better. In some cases they're going backwards. And that triggers all kinds of... How do you deal with that issue? Is there a case to be made for somehow separating out the cultures of male and female running it out at that age? So there isn't this kind of the women looking at the men and thinking they should be doing
SPEAKER_07: the same?
SPEAKER_05: I think that it's fine to have different experiences. You just need the different experiences normalized from day one. When the coaches are having their conversations with parents and students, that's the time to lay out, hey, we have a cross-country team or track team or basketball team, and we are working with 13 to 18-year-olds, for example. And female bodies are going to be going through something that looks more like this, which is if you just look at all the data on performance, it really doesn't matter what the sport is. By age 16, 17, female performance gains on average are like 1 to 1.5 percent, whereas their male counterparts, they go like this, doo, doo, doo, doo, and the female athletes go like, eeeeew, like this. But we haven't been telling them during that stage of life that, hey, this is temporary. This is like a blip in your long-term progression, and your prime is in your mid to late 20s and beyond. So really, every coach of an adolescent female person should be telling them, hey, this is going to be part of your normal progression. More than likely, you're going to have a plateau or even a short-term dip. I will be coaching you through that experience. As teammates, you're going to be navigating this with your teammates. Some of you will be on this part of the curve. Some of you will be on this. Some of you will be on this. So part of team culture needs to be supporting each other through that rocky road from day one and not looking at it as a bad thing. It's just a different path. Is there going to be feelings of disappointment? Sure. And we can make space for that without pathologizing it. And that's what we've been doing is because we don't recognize that females have this performance wave instead of this performance line, when they hit the plateau, there's parents who have been like, I sent my kid to a sports psychologist because I thought they just didn't care enough anymore. Or I sent them to a dietician because I thought that their nutrition was sloppy. That's just puberty. You just pathologized puberty. Yeah. But see, the trouble, I totally agree with you.
SPEAKER_04: And yet I think that implies that coaches have room to have the time and that athletes are patient and that their parents are patient. And at least in my experience with high school parents, of course, many were wonderful. I loved them. Always have to say that. You said it. Good job. But there's this drive to achieve and to get results right away. And if they're plateauing or getting worse, then again, what's the problem here? And so it is about coaching education.
SPEAKER_05: It is. And it's also, there's some things we can't change. I mean, sport, as we know it, was built around the male body. So high school sports, we invest a ton of money in high school sports and college sports, and that's ages 13 to 22. That's a great time to be a male in sport, right? And that's why they're, I'm guessing, so integrated into our education systems. And why scholarships are given out based on who's the best 17 or 18-year-old, that's a better predictor for a male-bodied person than a female-bodied person of what your future potential is. But the scholarships and that whole system was created long before female athletes were like up in there asking for their share of the scholarship pie. But now there's no getting around the fact that 17 and 18-year-olds are the ones getting offered the scholarships or not. And so that adds this enormous pressure right during development, right during your puberty experiences of change where you're like, okay, you're telling me to accept this temporary state of plateau, but there's a lot on the line, hundreds of thousands of dollars of scholarship and opportunity. And if I just restrict my diet, if I fight puberty, if I try to aim for this body that I've been told is the ideal performance body now, then I can give myself a chance to have
SPEAKER_05: those opportunities, but then you pay the price later.
SPEAKER_07: Well, this brings us to the Martians' second point, which is one that Linda raises explicitly in her book, which when I came to that part of your book, I was like, amen, I'm with you on this, both as Malcolm and as the Martian. That is a time to pull the plug on athletic scholarships and preferences. If you're, Lauren, you're describing this kind of, the level of pressure that is brought to bear on the 17-year-old girl at a time in her development when you can't make a kind of reasonable prediction about where, so this whole, we have this whole system in place that's being driven by the enormous cost of college education, by the expectations that come with scholarships. What if we just ended them?
SPEAKER_04: I'm all for it. And of course, many of the kids going through it now would be like, but wait, that's not fair. That's just what we've been counting on. But it would just, if there were no admissions advantage and no athletic scholarship of any kind available to college kids, then it would completely change the way we provide sports to kids now, because there wouldn't be this race, pardon the pun, to achieve by 13, because it might all disappear. And also, I love sports, and I'm a runner, and I think they're wonderful, but it's not clear to me why a high school athlete should get an advantage over someone who plays the oboe or who's in a choir. Why aren't there special dispensations for them? They aren't entitled to special scholarships or admissions advantages or a streamlined admissions process. So I think it would be more fair. I think it would also be impossible to claw it back, or at least very difficult.
SPEAKER_05: I really loved that part of your book, though, because I've often thought, man, if we could just get rid of the scholarships, it would release so much pressure on athletes, especially girls. I think that the pressures would just go way down. We'd be way more likely to allow development and change to happen on its timeline. But reading your book, I was like, oh my gosh, there's this whole other side of it, the whole big business of youth sports that's also driven entirely towards that same aim. And as someone who has a nine-year-old and a five-year-old, and I'd like them to participate in sports, I don't want to be a part of that mania. I don't want to be having to travel for hours every weekend to give my kid the top, top performance opportunity. I want the kind of sports that you describe in your book as an ideal. And so I am for getting rid of athletic scholarships. But what had prevented me in the past was what would we replace it with? And in your book, you also provide some really great ideas of that there are other models. And I think sometimes we lack imagination. It's really helpful to see other ways people are doing it. And I can't remember the one that you described. Maybe you could talk about it. Remind me what that would be.
SPEAKER_04: No, I think, well, certainly in Europe, they don't do youth sports like we do it at all. So there's no school-based sports. It's the after school. It's community-based sports. So that also sets up the whole college level. And when I was running in England, there were no teams. There were teams, but it was completely alien to the way we do it here. And there was no coach. It was like student-led, right? Totally student-led. It was probably comparable to intramurals here. And it was very serious and organic. And I don't see why that's not replicable here. And I think at the college level, another possible suggestion I had, which will never happen is, well, how about if we just abolished college sports as if? I say that, but why not club an intramural? I mean, it's not saying kids can't play sports. Well, you mean why not abolish?
SPEAKER_07: You're talking about intercollegiate sports. Like the NCAA. Right.
SPEAKER_05: Yeah. Well, what's ironic about this is in research for my book, what women had in sports was club and intramural before Title IX. But there was a huge discrepancy, obviously. There was no scholarships for us, but there were for men in the NCAA. There was more media, all these things that come with that infrastructure for men's sports. We wanted it too, when maybe all along we wanted equality, but maybe they should have followed our lead. Maybe we were onto something. Well, when Title IX happened, there was a discussion for the first couple of years about will we fold into the existing men's programs or will we run our own show here? We've guaranteed that the schools need to provide the opportunities, but we don't necessarily have to run it exactly like the NCAA. It took a little bit before the decision was made to join the NCAA. Essentially, one of the arguments in my book is that we should be recreating sports with female bodies at the center so that they can have an equal chance to thrive in the sports system.
SPEAKER_05: We kind of need to take it back and be able to do that because giving people the same thing the exact same way isn't going to get you the same result.
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SPEAKER_07: One of the things that's along these lines that I've often wondered about is whether there's an inherent contradiction between designing sports programs for the fiftieth percentile and designing them for the ninety-fifth percentile. Maybe those two things are in some sense incompatible. If we do away with high pressure intercollegiate sports and scholarships and things, maybe we produce fewer, maybe we don't, but maybe there's a chance we produce fewer world class runners. Let's use running as an example. Maybe we also produce way more people who are happy and contented and run their whole lives and maybe we get fewer 225 marathoners and more 250 marathoners. I would be happy with that, but there are some people in the elite sports community who consider that a tragedy.
SPEAKER_04: So few kids, not enough kids participate in sports now. I think if we can move the model to try to get more participation, there was just an article in the paper yesterday about the income gap between the wealthy families earning over $100,000, 70% of those kids play sports, and in families earning $25,000 or less, 31% play sports. So I think this is part of the same conversation that the way we have developed the youth sports system with its high cost and just relentlessness has pushed more kids out so that there are fewer kids gaining any advantages.
SPEAKER_05: Cross country is one of the ones that I think has the least access problems, considering that they generally don't have cuts and you don't have to have been in the youth sports high performance pipeline to join a team. And often you benefit if you haven't. I mean, I certainly like when I started as a ninth grader running, there had been plenty of people in my town who had been running a long time. And you were not at a disadvantage. I was not at all at a disadvantage. If anything, I felt like I was at an advantage. That's how it was framed to me. Because you were fresh. Yeah, and you have plenty of years ahead. It's just like recognizing this timeline. But with my kid interested in soccer, I think I spent $500 for a spring soccer experience for the kid. He's not even leaving town. So I don't really understand.
SPEAKER_05: He's had one practice. He's nine. I don't understand how people are affording this and continuing to do this. Well, if I can just point out that in my town, we have a junior pre-academy for U4s, which
SPEAKER_04: is three-year-olds. Are you serious? Wait, what? Well, it's a junior pre-academy because then there's also the pre-academy, which is for U5s and U6s. So it's like pre-K. Yes. So by the time there's a junior pre-academy, pre-academy, then there's academy and futures, and then there's travel. They've been playing for six years and they're nine years old. And in each one, it's $500 or more, which isn't the problem we were talking about with the money. I don't know how you do that.
SPEAKER_07: The biggest obstacle, and you mentioned this, Linda, and I would like you to be more blunt about this because you mean two. The biggest obstacle to the kind of de-escalation of youth sports is the parents.
SPEAKER_07: So and I'm reminded, you know, anyone who has to deal with parents, my brother was an elementary school principal. He's now retired, so I can now say this about him. And he loved his job and loved the kids. Just the parents that were. And he, you know, 50 percent, I think, of his anxiety came from parents, not from kids. He was prepared for the kids. He wasn't prepared. And he also had a, this is very tangential, had this hilarious riff about how the parent, the teachers that the parents think are the best teachers are always the worst teachers. So he was like, not only are they a pain in the ass, they don't know who the good teachers
SPEAKER_07: are. It's like, so, but I want to, so, the Martian says, why don't we ban parents from participation? Or you could, we give them one, they can go to one meeting, one event a year. That's it, they got to pick one, and then they're done.
SPEAKER_04: Okay, well, here's a good model is actually the way boarding schools do this. Because they, parents don't go to those. Because, and those sports programs, from what I understand, do pretty well. And the kids, it's pretty healthy between the coaches and the players because the parents aren't, you know, standing at the chain link fence observing. But in the absence of that, I think definitely restricting the parents is a good idea. And again, I would like to say I had a lot of wonderful parents that long. But their handful were not great.
SPEAKER_05: Well, the stuff that you were talking about in your book about how as parents we get sucked into our, like, our achievement as parents is shown in our kids' accomplishments. And that that's a relatively new phenomenon generationally. And my parents, my high school coach just retired after 30 years. And at his retirement party, he, again, he tells me this all the time. He's like, your parents were my favorite parents of all the parents in 30 years. Because they showed up to like the first meeting. They came to like three to five events. Perfect. They never once screamed, you know. And they never told him how to do his job. They showed up enough, like you say in your book, to like get to know the person who's spending crazy amounts of time with your kid. That's important. Get to know them a little bit. And then get out of the way. And truly, like, my sport experience always felt like it was mine. And that agency, that autonomy kind of cleaved me to the sport in a way that I think got me through the ups and downs a lot better. And like, they, I don't know, I just, I was so grateful for my parental experience. And then wanting to, your book was very affirming and like, oh, okay, they were actually doing a good job. So maybe I should try to do it like that. Look how you turned out as a runner.
SPEAKER_04: I mean, you're this fantastic runner. Obviously, you know, they were doing something right by just stepping back.
SPEAKER_07: My dad came to, in my entire running career in high school, one event. And he immediately volunteered to help with the long jump. So he was raking the pit. And as I was, I will say in modesty that I won, this was the interior championships, I won that day. And as I'm rounding the final bend on my way to victory, I look into the infield and I see my dad. He's raking. And then he raises the rake and he goes, go Malcolm! And he rakes again. That was the extent of his involvement. And I love that. But to your point, the thing about them not being involved is that it allows you to also frame your successes and failures the way you want to frame them. Because the parental frame is very different. They're much more, they're far more sensitive, I think, in some ways to setbacks, to, they don't understand the context in which you're operating, the social network that you're competing in.
SPEAKER_04: You know, what has really struck me both as a coach and since when I've talked to a lot of parents is just how anxious they are. It's all this anxiety about how their kids are going to turn out, which I get. That's what happens when you're a parent. But somehow it's played out in sports. It's also played out in school, but because sports are so visible, I think, your value as a parent is so easily measured by how well your child does. And I've been overwhelmingly impressed by how anxious parents are about it. And that's why they're freaking out and complaining and shrieking and trying to get you fired. Because you're not doing enough for your child to get that child to the next level.
SPEAKER_07: Did that, did dealing with parents, how much of an obstacle is that for people, for coaches? Continuing to coach, deciding to enter coaching, is that constraining our supply? Well I have an important stat here to share as we were discussing.
SPEAKER_04: This is accurate too. 58% of coaches that were surveyed about five years ago, and I'm sure it's gotten worse, said they thought about quitting because of parents. Two-thirds of coaches in a more recent survey said parents are always criticizing their child, they're criticizing their officials. Coaches are really down on parents right now. And interestingly enough, in this Aspen Institute survey, the parents were like, we love our coaches. So there's kind of this weird disconnect there. But coaches are really down on parents. And this is unfair, and I think so many parents are trying to do the right thing and don't want to be that parent. I've heard that so many times. I don't want to be that parent. But can you do more mild repeats?
SPEAKER_04: But I would like to say though that there is a time when they should interject, when they should be not complaining, but raising, talking to the coach or talking to the athletic director, and that's when there's some funny business going on. And the kids, the higher the level of athlete the child is, the more elite, the more likely they are to be emotionally abused and physically abused. And I think that's strangely when many parents don't step in. They raise hell when the child is put in right field. But if there's just a lot of nastiness and a terrible team culture, they're quiet as long as the team is doing well. And that's...
SPEAKER_05: It's intimidating, I imagine, because you're dealing with an expert. We tend to assume that they have a method that's vetted or they wouldn't have gotten
SPEAKER_05: to where they are.
SPEAKER_04: Well, and if they're successful in particular. But meanwhile, there's a lot of tolerance of just terrible things that we shouldn't be tolerating just because the coach has a great reputation. Yeah, that's true.
SPEAKER_07: Lauren, you talk quite movingly and honestly about your own father in your book, some of the best parts of the book. And in the beginning of the book, I thought your father came across as a much less sympathetic figure than he does by the end. And I'm wondering, how do you judge... You're the elite runner here. How do you judge your own parents? Do you think your father's role in your life helped you as a runner, was neutral, or hurt you as a runner?
SPEAKER_05: I think that overall, he was a really positive force. He was an alcoholic, for people who haven't read the book, and he worked really long hours as a prop maker. When he got home, there was about a 90-minute window where I could catch him sober before he would have too many drinks where I didn't know what kind of dad I was going to get. I developed this habit of trying to really get his attention through excellence during those 90 minutes because he really loved excellence, excellence in everything, music, sports, culture. It lit him up to see people at their peak doing something incredible. So I wanted to have his light on me in that way. So from that perspective, I can't even really blame him for that. That's just one of those childhood things where a dynamic emerges. The alcoholism was not ideal. Definitely would have preferred that not to be there. But then, gosh, throughout my career, he was so... He just had... It was a constant positive... I always knew I'd be loved no matter what the result was when I came home. So even though I desperately wanted to please him and be excellent for him, he never came down on me when I failed.
SPEAKER_05: So from that perspective, I would like to be that kind of parent for my kids.
SPEAKER_07: Wait, the Martian has another question.
SPEAKER_05: Yes, Martian.
SPEAKER_07: This is the Martian's most trivial, frivolous suggestion, although maybe not. The Martian says, wonders why, given all of the body issues that afflict girls in sports, why female runners wear bunhuggers and crop tops?
SPEAKER_05: Well, it's a very easy question to answer for the Martian. It's because our culture feels that female bodies are there to be viewed, objectified, as I commented on. And in order to do that, they need to be wearing less fabric and tighter-fitting fabric. And that is how female athletes got their start post-Title IX, was a movement to make... Really, this is true, to make up for the fact that people would need to be watching inferior performances. And so they needed to be a visual spectacle. And that's where the uniform differences came from and gender-specific clothing in sport, which of course women will say they wanted. They didn't want to be wearing a men's extra large hoodie necessarily all the time. They wanted things that fit and performed, but it took this aesthetic angle that was... Yeah, so that's why.
SPEAKER_07: Because I was looking... I read your book and then was looking at pictures of... I think it was... Some cross-country team, I've forgotten which, women's cross-country team. And all of a sudden I was aware of the fact that here were five young women, all of whom had six-packs, all of whom had not a stitch of fat on them, all of whom looked sort of shiny and healthy. And I was like, Jesus, that's a high bar for somebody who is not an elite Division I runner or someone. When I was an 11, 12-year-old girl thinking about running in high school, and I go online and I see that picture, that's what I'm... Can we at least just wear a T-shirt and a pair of baggy shorts and just make it just that little bit easier on that 11-year-old who wants to join in? Yeah, well, the thing is that probably only...
SPEAKER_05: Well, I don't think a six-pack is necessary for high performance at all. And there is a fixation with looking the part more than being the part. And the uniform creates that dynamic. I mean, it played a huge part in my life throughout my whole career. It was like, okay, my workouts are good, but what do I look like in my uniform? I don't look race-ready, so I'm not race-ready. Or the scale doesn't say I'm race-ready, so I'm not race-ready. It was like, those are not the most important indicators, not even close. And we have these concepts of race weight that are created and perpetuated by men primarily who have way less monthly fluctuation hormonally. And they are being applied to female athletes as if we can somehow have a magic number on a scale that if we can stay this number, we will perform optimally based on physics formulas. But that's not how our bodies work. And then it creates this very narrow band that you have to try to exist in and achieve in order to be viewed as elite. And I mean, I watched it happen on my teams where women who didn't look like that were shamed, made to feel like they weren't committed enough just because they didn't have the six-pack. It didn't really matter how fast they were running.
SPEAKER_04: That's your college team? Yeah. Because in our town, the high school girls wear all those uniforms. I just think that's terrible.
SPEAKER_05: I just think that there's not a performance advantage. Or the men and boys would do it. So let's just...
SPEAKER_07: Linda, at the school you coached at, so you were coaching girls across country? Did they wear...
SPEAKER_04: Oh, no. There's no way I would have let them.
SPEAKER_07: Oh, you put your foot down. One of my favorite images of Des Linden when she won the Boston Marathon. She's wearing those baggy shorts. For some reason, it's just the whole thing is so fantastic and badass. It's much more powerful emotionally to watch her because she's not pretending to be or wearing that uniform. She's just sort of being her...
SPEAKER_05: Yeah. She's just wearing the things she wants to wear. Wasn't she also wearing basically a parachute of a running jacket? I feel like she was wearing a jacket when she won the marathon. The whole thing was...
SPEAKER_01: I was like, wow. Yeah. There was a time, for those of you who don't, Des Linden is a very, very, very, very good
SPEAKER_07: American marathoner who won. There was a year that the Boston Marathon took place in a gale. The only way you could win... I mean, it was so nuts. The only way you could win is if you were the single toughest, most badass runner-up on the whole. Des Linden just sailed through. I can't... I like lapped the last three miles of that watching her on TV. I was like, I could not believe how emotional it was.
SPEAKER_05: She broke an incredibly long drought in the event for American Winner. To win it. Yeah. And her book's coming out in like a week, I think.
SPEAKER_07: That's right. We should really do it again with Des Linden. Yeah, definitely. Maybe she'll be running with me, unlike two of you. When we return, we don't find me a running partner, but we do settle on a grand solution to fix youth sports once and for all.
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SPEAKER_07: the fact that the only measure of me as a runner was whether I could win a race. And that like, and I lost that on 35 years of pleasure as a result of this. And now I'm wondering, should we, if we're, since we're banning stuff, lots of stuff, should we be banning kind of serious competition until, I don't know, 15 or 16 or something? Should we push out the, is there any reason why 13 year olds should be competing at the national level?
SPEAKER_04: No, in my view. Well, you know, I was at the Millrose games about six weeks ago and noticed that they had a race for the fastest eight year olds in the world. And they had these, you know, these tiny children lined up and they, you know, from different countries, I don't know where they came from, but they all ran like the same time, like ridiculously fast. And this is one, you know, we're talking about before you mentioned various models for doing things. We don't need to do the national championships at age 13 and 12. Like maybe in a lot of sports around this country, there are these ridiculous championships of like little children. And there's just, there's no reason for that. And the country that doesn't do this is Norway and they have incredibly robust participation and then like great success with their athletes after. So I would tell the Martian, let's forget the championships. You know what I, at least before 15 say.
SPEAKER_07: I did this recently and I can't remember whether it was 15 year olds or 16 year olds. Someone made a list of the top English 16 year old male milers, 1500 meter runners over the last 30 years, some odd years. And the question raised was how many of them went on to be world-class adult milers? And the answer was such a small number that it was like, you're like, wait, what? So if we're doing sports at that age because we're trying to identify people who will be talented as adult athletes, it's just about the worst predictor imaginable. Yeah, it's not working.
SPEAKER_05: So what I was just thinking in this story, like the reason why we have the national championships is for the adults. And for the sponsors and the people want to make money hosting it and getting the TV rights and all that stuff.
SPEAKER_05: It's like, show me the eight year old. She's like, you know, I want to raise the best eight year olds in the world. Mom, can you look that up? Does that exist?
SPEAKER_04: Right. You know?
SPEAKER_07: Hold on. Let's go to some questions. For Linda, how do you as a coach solve the problem that you're more likely to favor the gifted ones than the not so gifted ones? Is that a problem?
SPEAKER_04: Well, I don't know exactly. I mean, I think you have to be aware of the fact that you may have favorites. I would say it's more about favoritism because sometimes the best one is not your favorite. So I think it just takes awareness on the part of the coach to recognize that it's not building the team to focus solely on the best girls. Yeah.
SPEAKER_07: I mean, it's hard. I mean, Lauren, if I was your high school coach, I would be famous, right?
SPEAKER_05: I don't know. I mean, I mean, I mean, my point is that there's a natural, the kind of the success of the
SPEAKER_07: athlete invariably reflects back on the coach in ways that is not always, sometimes fair. That's right.
SPEAKER_05: The story didn't make the book, but I'm still a little bit upset about it. No, I'm just kidding. But my high school coach, by the time my senior year came around, he was getting really swept up in the accolades and how it reflected on him. There was some indoor meet that I really, we'd never focused on from Southern California. Indoor track is not really a thing, but there is this one place that you can do it with a wooden track. So we would go and sort of have a relay every year there. He was like, no, you're going to run the invitational mile and the invitational two-mile. These used to be prestigious races 25 years ago. I want to coach someone who wins these races. We were training over Christmas break for the first time ever, doing these hard workouts in a time of year when normally we're just going on fun runs. I was not enjoying myself. I was feeling tired from the cross-country season. When we got there, I ran the first race, did terribly. I was like, I don't want to do the second race. He's like, no, you need to do the second race. This is a big opportunity. He's pushing me to do it. I was like, coach, I'm not your race horse. He loves telling that story to people. He'll start bust out laughing. He's like, can you believe that? Can you believe she said that to me? He apologized in the car later. He actually said, I was getting swept up. I was making out with me. I wanted that. You never wanted it. I just wasn't listening to you when you were trying to tell me.
SPEAKER_05: It's real. It's a rare pressure, man. That's a rare coach.
SPEAKER_07: We had a whole series of things we wanted to ban. We wanted to ban bunhuggers and crop tops. Men, I think, were on there.
SPEAKER_05: What's that? I think.
SPEAKER_07: Parents. We're banning parents. We're banning competition before... 15. 15, I think is a reasonable... Championship. You realize championship.
SPEAKER_04: The competitions are okay, just not championship.
SPEAKER_07: My running career was over effectively at 15. You just erased me from...
SPEAKER_07: I have nothing. The amount of mileage I've gotten over the years over my running exploits at the age of 14 is considerable. That's now gone. Anyways, I'm fine. I'll take it on the chimp for the team. No offense. What's your favorite ban of all the bans? If you could only do one of those, we can ban the parent, the championships, the bunhuggers, and the college scholarships. I know my favorite ban.
SPEAKER_05: College scholarships is my favorite ban. Mine too. I think it would downstream solve a lot of the other problems. They could basically neutralize parents, most of them.
SPEAKER_07: Just that expression is so fantastic. Neutralize parents. Three parents up on stage talking about the virtues of neutralizing people in our position.
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, and then there'd be less motivation to host the eight-year-old world championships. Exactly.
SPEAKER_07: Yeah. Oh, here's a good question. Does a change in women's girls' sports need to start at the grassroots level, or are we talking something that has to happen top-down? Can we have a revolution that can change this? Or do we need to have someone that you talk about a kind of you want a czar. You wanted Michelle Obama to kind of step in.
SPEAKER_04: Yeah, that would be nice.
SPEAKER_07: People have so many czar jobs for her. Yeah, I know. Does Michelle know? Basically every intractable problem America has, we think, look, Michelle.
SPEAKER_04: I think it has to be both. I know that's a bit of a cop-out. Let's start with the top, though. If we ban the scholarships, that is going to have this trickle-down effect, and it's going to permeate all the way down. That addresses the larger issues with youth sports more than the ones specific to girl problems, but I think it would transform the whole game. And then a similar high-level thing, I think, would be mandatory coaching education for
SPEAKER_05: anyone working with female-bodied athletes. I can't think of a single reason why we wouldn't do that with the giant gap in knowledge we have. And then everyone, of course, should buy our books because that will be the grassroots thing. That will create our own me-too moment where people just, I'm not standing for it. We need that. On the grassroots thing, the thing, and both of you would have way more knowledge about
SPEAKER_07: this than me, but am I being overly optimistic if I say that the change is going to happen when the girls themselves stand up and just say, this is nuts? It's like if you're the coach of that team and you observe that there are, someone's disappeared and no one's really talking about why. Someone's on her third or fourth unexplainable stress fracture. Someone's bulimic. And then the person who wins the race from the other team is so scarily thin that you're worried about her.
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, well, you can normalize anything. I was just going to say. In the culture, right? And so, yeah, I think, but I don't think that it's fair to put it on the girls. I really think parents. You know, parents don't have enough to do. If they want to get involved, this is how you should get involved, which is like, yeah, like don't stand for it. And you talk about that, about stepping in, not being afraid to be the parent that says, no, I'm not going to do the extra thing. Yes, yes. Yeah.
SPEAKER_04: Well, I think, you know, it's funny. In my book, I was trying to kind of both understand where parents are coming from and also be, you know, offer a critique. And I think that it is important that parents recognize they have agency, that they don't have to go along with everything, that, you know, that extra strength and conditioning training or, you know, weight workout that might be helpful, the supplemental training, like the soccer club in my town that offers six-year-olds, that they can say no to that. It's okay to say no to that. Yeah.
SPEAKER_05: And from just the other day when I dropped my kid off at the $500 spring soccer experience, at practice, I was like, see you, Jude.
SPEAKER_05: And then one of the parents that I know is a parent of another kid in the class, and she's like, you're not staying? I'm like, God. So it makes it tough to, you know, we're giving each other pressure. Yes. Were you staying at a practice? Yeah, I wasn't going to stay and watch the practice. Oh, my God. This is what I have to look forward to.
SPEAKER_07: Wait, someone is waving frantically at me from offstage. So we've got to end soon. But I wanted to, for all the runners out there, I wanted to toss them a bone, and someone asked this question of you, Lauren, since you're our running student. It's so rare that we get to hang out with like real stars. It is.
SPEAKER_04: It's fun.
SPEAKER_07: I'm still bitter about not getting to go running with you, because you know what? I'll tell you why I was looking forward to it.
SPEAKER_05: It's not too late. What are you doing tomorrow morning?
SPEAKER_07: This is the thing. Those of us who are just kind of everyday runners, when we run with people who are at your level, you guys float. And we're running, and you look over, and you're just going, shh. And it's like magic. It's like watching a magician do a trick, right? And you're like, oh, my God. You're not even, you're not breathing, and you're not like, you're just kind of, you're not touching the ground, and you're like, how is this happening?
SPEAKER_05: That sounds like you're an intellectually curious person. Most people are like, do you want to run with me? They're like, oh, no, no, no. I would never do that. I'm like, I promise I'll run the pace you want to run. And they're just like, no, definitely not. Well, the question, this is really for the two of you, and then we really do have to
SPEAKER_07: stop. What did you guys like the most about marathon training? Linda, you started, and then we'll let Lauren finish. Oh, boy. It was a thousand years ago that I ran 249.
SPEAKER_07: If I had run 249, I would have a t-shirt that said 249 on it. So like, blow your own horn here.
SPEAKER_05: Yeah, and in super shoes, that'd be like a 230. Right. Oh, you're right.
SPEAKER_04: You know, I had a great group to train with, and the training is the fun part.
SPEAKER_04: Not always, but it's the camaraderie that I got in the marathon training. And you're out there a long time, so for the training runs were kind of fun to do, too. You know, when they weren't miserable.
SPEAKER_05: I didn't have a group, but I did get to have my professional coach, Mark Roland, at Oregon Track Club Elite. I had always had him in a group setting, and I was the only one doing a marathon, and that's normally the time of year I did New York when track and field athletes are taking a break. And so I had him to myself, and he would ride his bike alongside me, and we got to have all these really nice chats, and like, I just loved, that was the last year we worked together. So to have that, I have a lot of fond memories from that. Yeah.
SPEAKER_07: I think that's a lovely way to end, because it's a reminder. We've been talking about what's wrong with running, and the thing that I always try and tell young people when I try to get them to become runners is that this thing, the camaraderie stuff, is something that is just magical. Like, going on a long run with a group of people who you are friends with or close to and you've worked out with before, there's something there that you'll never find anywhere else. It's just a...
SPEAKER_05: Yeah. And I think that that love, that's what drove our books. It's like when you know that you have something worth fighting for and protecting, and we really just want to remove a lot of the garbage that's getting in the way of that. Right.
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