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SPEAKER_01: Hey everyone, it's Adam Graham. I host a podcast called Rethinking about the science of what makes us tick. This season, we're talking about emotional agility with psychologist Susan David.
What we know is that a default tendency to view these emotions as bad and therefore to suppress
SPEAKER_02: or push them aside has a real impact on our long-term well-being. It has an impact on our
ability to develop the skills that help us to deal with the world as it actually is. Not as we wish it to be, but it actually is, which is a world that is fragile in which our hearts will be broken and in which things aren't going to go in the way that we always want. Find and follow
SPEAKER_01: Rethinking with Adam Graham wherever you're listening. The fairytale industrial complex
SPEAKER_00: has been lying to you. Through a pervasive web of marketing, advertising, music, movies, and more,
it's said that while you can't buy love, you can buy your worthiness of being loved. Its commodification
of romantic love as a storybook fantasy can be summed up in three simple words. Happily ever
after. Happiness forever if only you're lucky enough and good enough and good-looking enough
to be chosen by a high-status partner, ideally in a romantic comedy-worthy moment. Over the last 10
years, I have spoken to thousands of people about their romantic hopes and dreams, and I can report that for many, their vision of an ideal relationship is straight out of the fairytale fantasy playbook, which is no wonder given that happily ever after is used to sell us everything from makeup to cars
to chewing gum. We've incorporated this propaganda into our real-life approach to relationships,
which disconnects us from love, which disconnects us from self-worth, and causes genuine confusion
about compatibility. Instead of making us feel that love is an abundant, infinitely renewable
resource inside of us, which it is, it tries to convince us that love is external and scarce.
It's time to consider a new possibility for our collective romantic future, one that centers
self-love, self-worth, and prioritizes making romantic choices in alignment with our authentic values. No purchase required. Despite what you've been told, each of us holds the keys to true love.
A true love relationship, as I define it, has the foundational values of love, respect, intimacy,
safety, commitment, adoration, and joy. When you approach romantic love from this foundation,
you empower yourself to transcend the shallow fantasy of love you've been sold for so long. With sincere intention, the courage to open your heart to be vulnerable, and the cultivation of
dating and love skills, true love can be a reality for all. How could it be any other way? You are a
born love genius. You were born knowing how to love. All of the love that you've ever experienced
and ever will experience is inside of you right now. The more that we cultivate the love within,
the better it is for everyone. That's because how we each individually approach love contributes to
how we all collectively experience it. We have the opportunity to transcend the manipulations
of the fairytale industrial complex and embrace a brighter, more intentional, more inclusive romantic
future for all, one that sees us all as worthy without exception. Thank you.
