The Cult of Conformity in Silicon Valley

Episode Summary

The Cult of Conformity in Silicon Valley In the early days of tech and startups, the people who were interested tended to be non-conformists - those who didn't want to follow the typical path of high-paying, structured jobs like finance, consulting, law, or medicine. Startups were considered very uncool, attracting only the weirdos and nerds who liked computers. Today, tech has become mainstream and conformists now want jobs at big tech companies like Facebook and Google for the status, money, structure, and leveling. CS majors have exploded not because more people want to build things, but because they see it as a path to these coveted jobs. Many conformists are also now entering startups, but are doing so to impress investors rather than to build something new. This shift leaves non-conformists without an obvious home. Places like YC aim to provide a community for people who want to build and test themselves, not play status games. Signs of a non-conformist include not caring about tech celebrity gossip, being okay with minimal structure, and believing they can learn whatever they need to accomplish their goals. The takeaway is that it's good to be a non-conformist. Surround yourself with similar people, join an early stage startup instead of a big tech company, and focus on building rather than status.

Episode Show Notes

What happens when the unconventional becomes conventional? Michael Seibel and Dalton Caldwell discuss how the startup world has changed from being dominated by outsiders and nonconformists to now attracting more mainstream conformists looking for status and money. They share stories of what the tech scene was like when they were in school - and how radically different it is today, while offering their advice around navigating a world that doesn't always reward nonconformists embarking on risky entrepreneurial journeys. Don't just think different, act different.
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Episode Transcript

SPEAKER_00: Who would want to be an early employee at iMeme and Justin.TV? Non-conformists. Like they would never be, you know, a conformist would not be caught dead working at an early stage start. This is Michael Seibel with Dalton Caldwell. Today we're talking about conformists SPEAKER_01: versus non-conformists in the tech and startup world. So Dalton, set this topic up for us. Sure thing. So something I think about a lot is the history of technology, the history of SPEAKER_00: Silicon Valley, the history of startups. It's just a topic that I've always thought was cool. And something that I think a lot about in my job at YC is the change between startups being something entirely done by non-conformists and the domain of non-conformists into kind of becoming a mainstream thing that I would consider conformist thinking is cool. Like your parents thinking is cool, your authority figures thinking is cool, the kind of people that would have gone into very blue chip kind of jobs or entering tech and startups that would not be caught dead doing in the past. So anyway, that's the setup is it's been weird to witness what was previously a very weird place to go populated by weird people become almost the opposite of that. SPEAKER_01: So let's go back to the dark ages. You and I went to school in the early and mid 2000s. And when we were in school, what's so funny is that like, it's probably hard for us to explain to a current college kid how uncool tech was. And then like, think of however uncool tech was, startups were 10x less cool than even that. But maybe the way that I would explain it with a number, you know, I was a Yale 05 graduate, and in my graduating year, Yale graduated 10 CS majors in a class of 1200 kids. So like, just to give you some perspective at that time, what was your experience like at Stanford during these times, SPEAKER_00: there were startups around, but this was just after the dot com boom and crash, this was like an 02 and 03. And so you'd have to be a real idiot to intentionally get into the wreckage of the dot com crash. Like it was pretty much people that just liked computers would be my assessment had nothing to do with financial seeking financial gains. Again, if you do that you do management consulting, you do there's a bunch of other options. And so it was kind of nerds is how I would describe it. Yeah, yeah. And, you know, at my school, too. I think there was a whole set of SPEAKER_01: kids. And I think this makes sense who are like, you know, I'm gonna do really good in high school and get into a really good school. Okay, I'm at that school, what's the next status seeking thing SPEAKER_01: that a gunner should want to go after? Right? And to your point, finance, consulting, law medicine, those are the like, easy ones. And they had a lot of the characteristics of school. Like there was a clear application process, there was a clear steps, these steps were kind of imposed upon you, like, it was it was a very comforting structure. Yeah, there was a lot of recruiters, there was SPEAKER_00: stuff on campus. And also you could brag to people that you what offers you got. Right? Like a lot of these places, you would interview at all the management consulting places and then talk to you brag to people about all the you know, who you got offers from what your signing bonus was. Yeah. SPEAKER_01: What's funny is all this stuff's gonna sound very familiar to anyone who's been in college recently. Yeah. It wasn't that way back then for tech. But what was also interesting is people who did get into startups, because I might argue that back then, just the people who were interested in tech at all back then were much more likely to be nonconformists. Right? You made the point, we just went through the the bubble bursting. And so it was interesting, like, I think a lot of our frameworks for who would be interested in tech just come from when we were in school, right? And it was it to your point, it was like weird, nonconforming darts, like, it was people who absolutely hated the idea of having a boss ever. I think there was also a bit of like, the folks in this world weren't lazy. I actually think the other kind of aspect here that was interesting was that it was a lot of people who didn't want to wait in line. Like they didn't want to be told like, oh, no, no, no, like, you still have 10, 15, 20 years to go to school or to work your way up through the system before you get to do stuff. You know, they were like, I want to do stuff now. And what was funny was that, you know, tech was the place back then, where you could do stuff now. Like, there would be no waiting, and certainly tech startups back then. But now things have changed, you know, fast forward a little less than 20 years, and tech is now attracting conformists. And I think that, you know, you and I have talked about this a lot, but I think at first, that was a confusing concept to us, you know, just because of our different lived experience when we were in school. Also in hiring, I mean, we'll probably talk about this a minute, but like, SPEAKER_00: the people who we were able to hire at our startups, like who would want to be an early employee at iMeam and Justin TV, non-conformists. Non-normal people. Like, they would never be, you know, a conformist would not be caught dead working at an early stage startup. SPEAKER_01: Well, you know, and to extend that point, what was so cool about San Francisco was it was the first place I went that just felt like I could be in a room full of weirdos. I could meet weirdos on the street. Like, you know, weirdos were all around. You know, it was the first place. Oh, wow. There are all these people who think they can make companies and they're just kind of all around doing it. That's different. Like, that's the opposite of where I came from. But, you know, today, I might argue that big tech has become, put itself solidly in that list, right? It is amongst the finance and consulting and legal and medicine. You know, college kids today obsess with getting jobs at Facebook and Google. They study how they interview just as much as people study how to interview, how to get into Goldman Sachs, right? Yeah, and they, you know, brag to everyone, I got this offer, I got this bonus, I got this level. SPEAKER_00: Like, it's a whole, like, I've seen some of these Reddit threads, man. This stuff's wild. SPEAKER_01: And they want the structure, they want the leveling, they want the status, they want the money. They used to be associated with these finance or professional jobs. Bam, they're all now associated with big tech. And so what's interesting is that at first you see the explosion of CS majors in school. And I think you would think to yourself, oh man, that means that there are a lot more people who are interested in building, but that's not actually the case. Like, it's deceiving. The numbers are deceiving. I remember going to a class and talking to a bunch of kids who were kind of interested in tech and startups and so forth. And I remember saying to them, hey, like how many of y'all are studying CS and write code? And 90% of the people raised their hands. And then I remember asking, oh, that's amazing. Like, what percentage of you would want to be writing code as part of your job in a startup or a company? And like 90% of those hands went down. And it was so clear that like, that CS job was like a label or a status thing to get the career they wanted. It wasn't, writing code wasn't something they enjoyed doing at all. SPEAKER_00: I remember going to the MIT career fair, this was like years ago. And most of the people that talked to me wanted to ask me how to get a job in VC and what tips I had than how to start a startup. Like that's what, like, that's actually, again, I know it's, well, that's why they were talking to me, but it was just, it was fascinating that they're like, yeah, yeah, yeah. You know, why common or yeah, cool, whatever. But like, how do I become an investor? And these were, this was MIT, man. SPEAKER_01: Well, I think that you're setting up the next topic, right? Which is that like, these conformists are also now invading the startup world. And I agree with you, right? The highest status job in the early stage startup world is investor, right? It's the one everyone wants to meet, everyone's talked to, everyone seeks approval to. And so for sure it makes sense, right? That, you know, the logic follows. But we also see a lot of these folks who are conformists who want to do startups, but they start, almost it feels like their motivation or starting point is very different than what we would expect. You know, one of the things that we say sometimes at YC is that don't make the investor your customer. But a lot of these conformists who are getting into startups, that's what they do. Like they want an idea an investor is going to like, they want to act the way an investor is going to like, they want to have their resume investors going to like. And their questions are usually something along the lines of, they want us to SPEAKER_00: tell them the secret to get investors to like them. Like that's actually, that's what they, that's what they hope that we will tell them is the secret, the secret words to whisper to an investor to get approval. I think that the challenge nowadays is where will non-conformists SPEAKER_01: go to find their home? You know, it used to be as easy as going to tech and now it's not as easy to go to tech. And you know, you brought this up when we were discussing this before, but you know, PG originally started YC to be a home for this type of people, right? To be a home for people who wanted to build, who didn't want to wait in line, who really didn't care about status in and of itself. They just wanted to go out there and like challenge themselves. And it's interesting because when we're talking to founders now who are in YC, there are all these things that we hear or conversations that we have that do motivate us, that do make us feel like, oh my God, like you, you actually want to be a builder. And I think it'd be helpful to kind of talk about some of those things because they might be different than people would think. The first one that immediately comes to mind for me is, you know, now that YC gives $500,000, I'll have conversations with founders all the time where they come to me and they're like quiet. They think I'm going to disapprove, right? They're like, Michael, like, I know I'm not supposed to say this, but I think $500,000 might be all the money we need to like, I don't know, like hit 50K in MRR to like get profitable or like hit this mega milestone. Like, is it okay if we don't raise a bunch of money? You know? I think the other hint, and you brought this up, you better describe it in more detail, is they have no idea who the like tech Twitter's syllab of the moment is or the tech Twitter debate of the moment is, right? Like this is not, they don't live in that world. How have you seen that? It's just a sign of what you're focused on. And so when folks are really involved in the scene, SPEAKER_00: in the drama, in the characters, and are obsessed with the startup scene, as opposed to their own thing and solving customer problems, yeah, that's usually a sign of like conformity. SPEAKER_01: The next one that I see that I love is everyone has high expectations what they're going to accomplish when they get into YC. And then inevitably and initially they don't meet those expectations. And it's so fun to work with the founders who are excited by that, who are like, I'm excited that this is harder than I thought it would be. Like I knew it was going to be hard. It's proving to be harder than I thought. This is going to make me better. Like this is forcing me to raise my bar. I wanted to test how good I was. And like, this is bringing the best out of me. And it's different because you don't get to level up and get a gold star. And oh, good job. You're SPEAKER_00: now founder. We're up. We're getting a promotion. You are now founder level three. Congratulations. Like when people are cool with it, it's not that way. Because I think sometimes people really want it to be that way. And they're really freaked out that it's not. Some people love it. They're like, SPEAKER_00: yeah, this is great. Like there's no structure. Like the only way that you can keep score is like revenue for my startup. And if it gets big, there's no other way to keep score than that. SPEAKER_00: Some people love that. And then you said this last one, because I always love this one. SPEAKER_01: I think a good way to say it is folks that have a very high opinion of themselves. SPEAKER_00: And when they see peers, they're like, yeah, I'm like going to try way harder and like be way smarter and learn way faster than them. Like basically, the non-conformists are willing to kind of like, they want to be above the peer group, not in the peer group. Versus if you're a conformance, you don't want to, you kind of want to be in the pack with everybody. SPEAKER_00: A lot of the folks, the really hardcore non-conformists I've funded that have done great, they'll be like, yeah, you know, I don't get what all these other people are doing, but like, this is what I'm doing. And like, it's going great. You know what I'm trying to say? So it's like a combination of optimism and confidence. SPEAKER_01: Yeah. I, the way that I like to say this is it's people who are excited to bet on themselves. Like they believe in their own growth curve. Like they believe they are on exponential curve and like they are all in on what they're going to be able to accomplish. You know, like, what's funny is that like, once again, that's typically not based on the skill that they come in with day one. It's always based on their assumption that they can accomplish whatever needs to be accomplished or learn whatever needs to be learned or meet any challenge of the future. You know, as funny, cause like one of my co-founders, Kyle Vogt, like it's this in spades, like there was never a technical challenge where Kyle's first thought was not, well, I'm sure I can figure this out. Like full stop. Like I'm sure I can figure this out. And I remember when he told me that he was going to do cruise and self driving cars. And my first thought was like, you're crazy. And then I just kept on thinking every time there was something super hard to adjust in TV, Kyle's first feeling, well, yeah, I got it. No worries. I got it. And we knew he had no experience. He was like, yeah, I got it. And then I was converted immediately. I was like, you know, self driving cars is going to test you and like, you respond to being tested. Like the bigger the test, the bigger you come through. Like that is a nonconformist. Like that SPEAKER_01: is the person who like, you know, that's the person who can bend the world a little bit, you know, like, so what's the grand takeaway here, Dalton? SPEAKER_00: I think the grand takeaway is the following, which is just to remind people that it's okay slash good to be a nonconformist. If you're not currently a founder, one tip is to join a early stage startup instead of a big company, because it's more likely you'll find like minded people. You know, being the first 10 employees somewhere is going to be weird. And the people that tend to like working at the first 10 employees tend to be nonconformist. Right? Because there's no structure. It's like chaos. So that's like a really good move versus going into like the big tech treadmill. And I think the other big takeaway is just to remind people like, you know, don't play status games. Or maybe you can, but maybe some, you know, SPEAKER_00: do it inside of a big tech company instead of trying to play status games and startups. SPEAKER_01: Yeah. And like my final thought is I come back to what I say to every founder when they come in, which is, you know, congratulations for being in YC. The average YC company dies. Like you, you literally have accomplished in the scale of making any impact on the world, getting into YC means you've accomplished nothing. I think there's a lot of people who think that they're nonconformist, but they are actually secretly following some thesis of tech Twitter or yada, yada, yada, you know, and like they tell their sums like they're not formist, but they really are just trying to fit in with a pack. And I would just say like, for the real nonconformist out there, just find your people. Like you're going to be so much happier when you're surrounding yourself with other people like you. And, you know, we think YC can be a place like that, but like, even if you don't think YC can be a place like that, you'll be more productive when you surround yourself with a group of people like that. And I can say personally going through YC, that's why we got better was because we were surrounding ourselves with these nonconformists who all thought that they were amazing. And we all were like, well, I guess we got to level up. We think we're better than them. So how do we, what are we going to do? You know, so for nonconformist, good luck. Great talking to you, Dalton. Sounds good. Talk to you later, man. SPEAKER_00: Bye.